“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate those differences.” ~ Audre Lorde
A Red Thread Runs Through Us by Phyllis A. Taylor of Pannet Art Studio
Today’s Letter from the Red Thread Cafe #908 – Inquiries into loving more + why anti-racism work might not be landing for white people + story about my mother’s inter-racial marriage when I was eight and more to ponder with your cuppa tea…
Today we are going deep into the heart of where the BIG LOVE place dwells within. How do we grow our capacity to expand our loving, our compassion, and understanding toward others during times when there is so much division and polarizing in the spectrum of left to right, right, wrong, up, down?
In Intentional Creativity, we sit in circle with one another, we share stories, we paint and draw to understand each other and the collective. Being numb to issues of social justice are so common – we’ve been conditioned to love our family and friends, those ‘like us’, but how can we expand our love for those we’ve never met? How can we truly FEEL what they are feeling and seek to have a greater understanding?
I am sharing my podcast today from Tea with the Muse, Expanding Our Capacity to Love. Spend a half hour with me in the quantum field and notice how you feel after. Does your heart feel more open? Can you see the places you can expand to give more love for people you know and those you don’t?
In all of our classes and events, we strive to ask deeper questions to help us understand our true human beingness. When we can gather and have these conversations, we all learn, heal and grow together. Want to experience this? Take a look at our events and pick a date in the Quantum or in Sonoma!
Red Thread Letter #908
Expanding Our Capacity to Love
I want to share something with you, and I don’t quite have the language developed yet, so it’s gonna be a bit of an exploration – it’s around our inter-dimensionality as human beings and how that’s directly related to our capacity to truly love, have clarity and compassion.
I’ve been working with groups of people since my early thirties, and I think my big wake up was around people’s capacity to, as we say, walk a mile in another person’s shoes because people have so much of their own trauma, their own self-healing, to do, recovery from guilt and shame and self-loathing and trauma scores. All the things that we are having to navigate as human beings to varying degrees. It really takes up so much space that it can be challenging for us to have enough space to love in bigger ways.
As I’ve been working with groups of people and seeing where people’s edges are – like why someone wasn’t able to move into an anti-racist worldview for themselves, why someone wasn’t able to feel compassion for another person who maybe was unconsciously causing harm, why somebody would go into a deeply judgmental place, but call it part of their spiritual tradition, why someone wasn’t able to see how focusing on women in my work didn’t mean it was against men. It’s like this capacity thing where people are polarizing in the spectrum of left to right, right, wrong, up, down ~ that whole thing. Sort of snapping between the poles and not able to find a medial ground where they could look both ways and consider more than one perspective at once.
I really started to wonder – is this a brain, heart situation?
Have we actually not evolved the way that we need to for survival because we’re not actually wired for loving enough? Is the heart field and the brain field not overlapped and woven enough? Is it that we’re not conscious of how these heart and brain waves can work together to expand our capacity to see?
If these inquiries intrigue you, or you desire to do the work and explore what you may not be seeing, come over and tune in as we expand our capacity to love beyond what is familiar or common place. It is time to have these conversations now, so we can reverberate that big love to those we impact the most.
I am sending you LOVE from my BIG LOVE place that I hope you can feel today.
Jonathan and I spent a couple of weeks in Mexico recently.
I love this Guadalupe inspired statue in Careyes. A reminder that
the love of the Great Mother is never far away…